Nobody wants to think poorly of a friend, especially if one's been a lifelong companion, but sometimes it's best to face the facts. Even if they're fun to be around, the truth is that that one friend is really just a scumbag.

Redditor u/just_want_advice_7 needed to know exactly how other people figured out that a loved one was a bad person. And as much as it stings, some of these seem all too familiar.

What’s the moment you’re realizing your friend wasn’t a good person?
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After reading through hundreds of comments, some patterns quickly emerged. While these responses certainly don't cover every bad situation, they reflect some common tropes among bad friends.

Note: Comments mention violent transphobia, racism and other anti-social behavior.

Instead of owning up to their bad behavior, they bend over backwards to excuse it

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They refuse to take the suffering of others seriously

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They'll burn through your resources happily, but won't share anything for free

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They can only conceptualize relationships as competitions

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They cheat with no empathy for those they harm

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They expect you to accept all of their bigotry

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Via u/just_want_advice_7.

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