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I’ve spent the last three years in weekly therapy sessions focusing primarily on reconnecting with my body and setting boundaries. In this time, I’ve realized I actually hate spending time with my longtime friend and her kids. Is it possible to redirect course? [more inside]
posted by anonymous to Human Relations at 4:07 PM - 5 answers

I need more towels—ideally bath sheets, if possible. I would like to buy some that dry fast (to avoid mildew) and don't need to be washed immediately when I get them. Can you recommend some that arrive clean and ready to use? [more inside]
posted by limeonaire to Home & Garden at 3:47 PM - 2 answers

Can you recommend a Manhattan, NYC bar or restaurant with an outdoor patio or rooftop for a medium-size casual hangout? [more inside]
posted by andoatnp to Food & Drink at 2:58 PM - 1 answer

My partner and I are planning a trip to Taos this summer, and I'd like to do a watercolor workshop at Ghost Ranch. But I have concerns about staying there... [more inside]
posted by Molasses808 to Travel & Transportation at 2:22 PM - 0 answers

I'm doing a three week trip to Europe to see how I like Portugal, Spain and France. What should I pay attention to while I'm there to see if I'd thrive in any of those locations? [more inside]
posted by Art_Pot to Travel & Transportation at 1:39 PM - 11 answers

I figured out how to import a .gpx route into google Earth Pro, and use Street View to navigate the blue line of the route using the arrow keys. But how do I make the software take me on a fly-through of the route? [more inside]
posted by oxisos to Technology at 1:30 PM - 1 answer

How long after the official expiration date is it okay to use testosterone? Is this different for injections vs. gel? What are the potential consequences? Can anything be done to mitigate them? Anything else I should know? [more inside]
posted by MeFi Trans Questions to Health & Fitness at 1:27 PM - 2 answers

Long story short: My smartphone has gone awol, my carrier will not open its replacement w/o picture ID which I also lack (just tried applying online for an enhanced ID and I AM NOT IN THE SYSTEM and can't make phone calls to them from the tablet I am using. I bought a burner phone but the devil in the details there is I am unable to open it. [more inside]
posted by y2karl to Human Relations at 12:55 PM - 3 answers

I have some existing furniture that uses 1/4-20 bolts to attach the legs. I'd like to experiment with different leg lengths. Who sells wooden table legs with a single 1/4-20 bolt as the attachment mechanism?
posted by Number Used Once to Shopping at 8:57 AM - 5 answers

How do you lock your knees on purpose? So I know you're not supposed to lock your knees if you're standing around in the sun/in hot weather for a long time, because it can make people faint. But how do you lock your knees ON PURPOSE if you want to see if it makes it easier to stand up for long enough to brush your teeth or wash your hands? What is "locking your knees" and how do you do it?
posted by chariot pulled by cassowaries to Health & Fitness at 8:51 AM - 5 answers

I have a new, crusty mole that's recently appeared on my body. I'd like to get it checked out and make sure it's not melonoma - and have it removed, regardless. Is this something I can go to a GP for, or do I need a dermatologist? [more inside]
posted by anonymous to Health & Fitness at 7:48 AM - 15 answers

I have a lot of clothes, many of which I am not wearing, and I want to pare down by donating/selling/giving away some. There are some easy categories of things to give away (uncomfortable clothes, for example, or things with holes and tears that are beyond mending). However, over the past few years, I, a queer cis female, have started dressing less femme, and I don't know how to decide what to do with my more femme clothes and shoes. Can you help? [more inside]
posted by woolsocks to Clothing, Beauty, & Fashion at 8:48 PM - 20 answers

I'm trying to identify a movie from the 60s or 70s that starts in media res with a man floating alone in the ocean. He makes a joke about being hundreds of miles from land but actually only a mile from land, straight down. [more inside]
posted by jclarkin to Media & Arts at 8:36 PM - 3 answers

Please help settle a campfire bet. Is there an app or a database, or a GIS thingie that'll tell me how far I am from a gas station? Ditto for an EV charger? And even better, allow to calculate to all camp grounds in a region (county, state, country). Envision a map, areas of colorEV are closer to EV chargers, areas of colorGas are closer to a gas station. [more inside]
posted by cyclicker to Travel & Transportation at 7:10 PM - 10 answers

A year or so ago I saw a Facebook ad for an online math program and now I can't find it. [more inside]
posted by beyond_pink to Education at 6:43 PM - 2 answers

I want to cut a hole in my floor and put a little flappy door in the hole so my cat can get to the basement where her poop box is. Of course she can go down the stairs but we might get a dog and I want her to have an alternate route if her primary route is blocked. Talk me through some practical considerations here. [more inside]
posted by Vatnesine to Home & Garden at 5:18 PM - 20 answers

I'm asking this on behalf of an internet buddy. They are trying to find a cartoon video they saw around 2004-2005 with a couple ninjas in it. Details of what they remember are in the extended explanation. [more inside]
posted by StimulatingPixels to Media & Arts at 2:59 PM - 0 answers

I am mentoring a group of highly motivated students who are forming their own nonprofit. I am looking for some online training or resources that I can share with them about best practices in nonprofit social media management. Free is best. Low cost is also an option. [more inside]
posted by anastasiav to Work & Money at 2:08 PM - 1 answer

I need recommendations for new socks specifically for walking. Specifics within! [more inside]
posted by karizma to Clothing, Beauty, & Fashion at 1:13 PM - 10 answers

My retired parents bought a new primary residence in California, but later learned that it has black mold. Their homeowners insurance won't cover it. What to do? [more inside]
posted by fenwaydirtdog to Law & Government at 12:01 PM - 17 answers

I like The Bangles and The Go-Go's. Are there other all-woman groups that 1) write their own music, 2) play their own instruments, and 3) play rock, not pop (so not Bananarama).
posted by kirkaracha to Media & Arts at 11:57 AM - 56 answers

I need to make my google spreadsheet look very impressive. I am terrible at this kind of thing. Need advice and resources. [more inside]
posted by kitcat to Work & Money at 10:54 AM - 11 answers

Looking for wet-dry "shop" (what does that even mean??) vac [more inside]
posted by DMelanogaster to Home & Garden at 10:31 AM - 12 answers

Now that we all use equal temperament, it's common to have a piece of music that you could transpose up or down a little bit without changing its sound or exceeding any instrument's range. So how do composers choose between, say, Eb and D when they're writing a piece? I'm especially interested in cases where the composer chooses an inconvenient key — e.g. a string quartet in Eb when D is a "better" key for strings, or a woodwind-heavy piece in D when Eb is a "better" key for winds.
posted by Birds, snakes, and aeroplanes to Media & Arts at 9:41 AM - 16 answers

I am certain this is an easy fix. But I haven't used Excel in a while and I can't seem to find the answer. [more inside]
posted by jtexman1 to Computers & Internet at 9:39 AM - 7 answers

My partner and I have a ancient dachshund who needs a lot of care. As such, our vacation options are somewhat limited. He has to come with, no hotels, and it has to be in reasonable driving distance from SE Michigan. Next year, we want to go somewhere warm and swim in the ocean. Someplace with good art/music/food options would be lovely too. A few years ago we went to Isle of Palms and had a great time. Where should we go this time?
posted by alsoran to Travel & Transportation at 8:19 AM - 8 answers

I have dandruff caused by yeast that responds very well to ketoconazole (both prescription and Nizoral). But I can't use it for every shampoo, according to the instructions. What's the second best/strongest antifungal shampoo? [more inside]
posted by anonymous to Health & Fitness at 8:04 AM - 9 answers

I am having a weird pain — not too painful, but odd enough that I am a bit worried. It’s a (not to painful to be honest) weird stabby (yet dull pain) just above my one eye (the right) that lasts for just a few seconds. It seems to be happening every five minutes or so for the last 2 hours or so. I woke up with it. It’s never happened before. I almost never get headaches (is this a headache?) —but when I have, they are not on one side and in this repetitive pattern.
posted by Lescha to Health & Fitness at 7:35 AM - 15 answers

I haven't worked on any languages in ages. I'm in my 50s and my brain doesn't do them as well as it used to, but I'd like to. I'm probably too lazy to find a conversation group so I'm looking at easy options. [more inside]
posted by less-of-course to Education at 7:30 AM - 1 answer

Hello all; I do NOT have an Reddit account,and don't want one. When I visit Reddit.com.I always get a pop-up on top right corner,it says"sign in to reddit.com with google.com". Is there anyway I can stop this from happening? Im using a Chromebook Acer 514. If u suggest an ad blocker,I was using AdGuard AdBlocker ,but it doesn't seem to help anymore. Thanks for ur help :)
posted by LOOKING to Computers & Internet at 5:16 AM - 9 answers

I am trying to sustain the efficacy of my ADHD meds. One thing my ADHD subreddit really emphasizes is eating a high protein breakfast with your morning meds. All of the examples seem complicated expensive and annoying. [more inside]
posted by DarlingBri to Food & Drink at 3:55 AM - 46 answers

A well-read friend asked me to recommend a book on the above subject. More inside. [more inside]
posted by martin q blank to Writing & Language at 9:00 PM - 5 answers

I read a lot of prior questions before I wrote this. I don't know how to communicate with them. [more inside]
posted by intrepid_simpleton to Work & Money at 7:43 PM - 4 answers

Has anyone successfully installed a bike rack on their kids Trek 24" precaliber? If so, link to product? Guy at the Trek shop said nothing off the shelf was guaranteed to work due to: no installation points, v brakes and general geometry. We are bike packing in a week-- last year I carried just about everything and this year I want her to share a bit of the load.
posted by rene_billingsworth to Sports, Hobbies, & Recreation at 7:30 PM - 10 answers

Looking for either my concerns to be assuaged or barring that, ways to prepare. [more inside]
posted by CancerSucks to Computers & Internet at 7:22 PM - 9 answers

I'm looking for a (hopefully inexpensive) omnidirectional table microphone that can pair directly to a bluetooth headset/headphones -- so things said into the microphone can be heard in the headphones, without a computer in the middle. I want to be able to turn the device on, hear the "bing" of my headphones pairing with it, and then place it in the center of a table and have it just work. It's fine to need a computer or phone to set it up/pair/etc., but not for regular use. Does such a thing exist? [more inside]
posted by toxic to Technology at 7:15 PM - 8 answers

Help me swim somewhere in the Pacific Northwest this summer. [more inside]
posted by ljesse to Travel & Transportation at 5:46 PM - 8 answers

I recently (re)started therapy and I don't know if my therapist is a good fit. If you have been in therapy and especially if you've decided to change therapists for reasons that weren't logistical, what influenced that decision? How do you distinguish between the discomfort that is necessary to the process and discomfort that could be avoided with a different approach? [more inside]
posted by anonymous to Health & Fitness at 2:40 PM - 13 answers

I have an Intex inflatable hot tub (86" diameter). I love it but I'd like to add another filtration system. [more inside]
posted by DMelanogaster to Home & Garden at 12:46 PM - 4 answers

I've worked here for almost a year and I get misgendered all day every day. Can I fix this or has this ship sailed? [more inside]
posted by anotheraccount to Work & Money at 11:57 AM - 31 answers

I sleep in a queen-sized bed, and I don't like the mattress. It makes me feel hot, especially in the summer. I'm looking for a blanket, or some sort of piece of cloth, that I can sleep on. It would go on top of the fitted sheet, not under it. [more inside]
posted by akk2014 to Grab Bag at 11:37 AM - 9 answers

This person turns up at my home without warning. A recent event makes them think I may have moved. I live in a bungalow and only have a front door and a window (5.5' x 2.5') facing the street. This person knows - from previous visits - that the only adornment on that window is a plain white curtain. What is a simple, effective and inexpensive way to change how the window looks from the street (50') so that, on unscheduled arrival, this person immediately thinks, "oh yeah, my log's definitely moved."? [more inside]
posted by my log does not judge to Grab Bag at 11:24 AM - 39 answers

I've been using Signal for chat on my Android phone and across multiple Windows PCs for a few years now, mostly without incident. But lately, the Windows desktop app has been behaving in utterly bizarre ways. In a nutshell, it seems to be... somehow turning itself into a browser tab in one of my Firefox windows! I haven't found any discussion of this kind of glitch online. Help! [more inside]
posted by Artifice_Eternity to Computers & Internet at 10:19 AM - 7 answers

I'm spending 2 weeks with family in Tuscany in June, staying just outside Florence. We have a list of must-see/must-do activities, but in the past, AskMe has been great with suggestions that dont come up in a random google search. Hoping y'all have some ideas that we should look into, in and around Florence! The group traveling is 2 adults in their late seventies (one with limited mobility), 4 adults in their forties, and 2 kids under 8 [more inside]
posted by darsh to Travel & Transportation at 8:54 AM - 11 answers

There is so much glass around here, oh my god. I swear it has gotten worse in past years. I want to invest in really good tires, details within. [more inside]
posted by Frowner to Sports, Hobbies, & Recreation at 8:53 AM - 29 answers

My cat had an, umm, accident on my futon mattress. Which sucks as it was a great mattress, and the company that made it seems to have shut down. Help me find a replacement! [more inside]
posted by baggers to Home & Garden at 7:03 PM - 3 answers

[Obvious TW for substance abuse] Sometimes I feel that people I encounter have the same emotional "heat signature" as my alcoholic family members, even when I'm certain or reasonably certain they do not have substance-use disorders. Am I just projecting my own issues, or do other adult children of addicts experience this too? [more inside]
posted by anonymous to Human Relations at 6:30 PM - 21 answers

I have a TCL Roku TV that has worked with no problems for years. Yesterday it wasn't connected to my wifi (this happens a lot - you just choose your network and connect). When I chose my wifi, it asked if I was in a college dorm or at home - never seen this message before. I chose at home, because I am. Now nothing works. Others have had this problem with no solution - more inside. [more inside]
posted by tzikeh to Technology at 6:27 PM - 12 answers

I do music nights on Fridays. They are generally based around a theme. This Friday's is sci-fi. [more inside]
posted by edencosmic to Media & Arts at 5:41 PM - 88 answers

I have a new cell phone. I still have my old cell phone, but it has a different phone number. I also have a landline. I can successfully call my old cell phone from my landline, but when I try to call my new cell phone from my landline I just get dead air. No numbers have been blocked on my new cell phone. Anyone know how to fix this??
posted by SageTrail to Technology at 5:26 PM - 8 answers

My wife is applying for Social Security online. The form has a place for a middle initial. Her SocSec card has her middle name as does her drivers license. If she puts her middle initial in the form and tries to submit, it rejects it with the initial outlined in red. Has anyone else dealt with this? Can we leave the initial out?
posted by doctor_negative to Law & Government at 4:45 PM - 4 answers

I've been through one of the hardest years of my life and a recent break up has triggered a near breakdown which has me feeling I don't know where to go next. [more inside]
posted by BuffySummers to Human Relations at 3:35 PM - 13 answers

What are some niches within environmental science-related work (broadly defined) that involve elements of data science / GIS / spatial data work AND teaching/working with data learners, especially one-on-one? Asking for a data librarian contemplating a jump into new niches/sectors. [more inside]
posted by elephantsvanish to Work & Money at 3:16 PM - 2 answers

I'm very interested in the origins of English words, in particular the interplay between English and other languages. What's a good resource for finding the answer to my language questions when they pop up? Examples within. [more inside]
posted by fruitslinger to Writing & Language at 3:00 PM - 11 answers

The only veggie one of my kids will eat is corn. I have an idea to expand his tolerance for vegetables by “chaining” similar vegetables together. What vegetables are similar to corn? [more inside]
posted by CMcG to Health & Fitness at 2:24 PM - 25 answers

Just as the title says, but with the added twist that most are first editions and several are signed by the author.
posted by tafetta, darling! to Grab Bag at 2:21 PM - 1 answer

I (36F) have been experiencing strange sensations in my hands for the past 1.5 weeks, and am beginning to feel concerned. These sensations oscillate between freezing spots, and then transition into a heat so intense that it feels like my skin is melting. [more inside]
posted by Beyond The Portal to Health & Fitness at 1:18 PM - 8 answers

I'm picking up a friend at the Amtrak station in Poughkeepsie in a couple of days. Their train is supposed to arrive around 5 PM and we won't get home until 2 or 3 hours later. Can you tell me somewhere we could grab a bite to eat? Either takeout or (covered, given the forecast?) outdoor dining would be best. [more inside]
posted by wintersweet to Food & Drink at 1:05 PM - 4 answers

Like other posters in the past, I’m looking for a piano songbook from the 1970s with specific songs in it. [more inside]
posted by vitabellosi to Society & Culture at 12:52 PM - 6 answers

I've been toying with the idea of promoting editorial services of various kinds on Reedsy. I'd love to hear from anyone who's done it, and how it's gone.
posted by swheatie to Writing & Language at 12:15 PM - 2 answers